Day of Remembrance

October 18-19, 2019

 

St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital would like to honor children who died between March 31, 2014 and April 30, 2019 by inviting their immediate families to our 20th annual Day of Remembrance weekend, October 18-19, 2019. The Day of Remembrance was created by a task force of St. Jude bereaved parents like you. They wanted to ensure that other St. Jude families had the opportunity to honor the memories of their children here at the hospital.

Having a child with a life-threatening illness often bonds families and leads to lifelong friendships. Families also form bonds with staff throughout the hospital. You and your children have touched and inspired so many of us at St. Jude. The Day of Remembrance weekend is meant to honor your child through memories; renew, strengthen, and acknowledge your connections with St. Jude staff and families; and create new connections.

Registration will close Friday, September 20, 2019. After this day, no additional registrations will be accepted.  If you would like an information packet and registration form mailed to you, please contact Tiffany Smith or call 901-595-2573.

We truly hope you will join us for this event. We look forward to seeing you in October.

 

Day of Remembrance Agenda

A detailed agenda will be sent to you following your approved registration. Please contact Tiffany Smith or call 901-595-2573 with any questions.

All events will be held on the St. Jude campus.

Friday, October 18

Time Event
9:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m. Check-in and Memory Board Decoration — Marlo Thomas Center
Check in, select and decorate a memory board, get a massage, visit our table of resources, reconnect with old friends and make new ones. Box lunches will be available at 11 am.
1:00 - 5:00 p.m. Welcome Reception — Marlo Thomas Center
Reconnect with staff and share memories at your memory board honoring your child’s legacy.
5:30 - 8:00 p.m. Family Dinner and Special Remembrance — Location TBD
Families are invited to enjoy a special dinner hosted by James Downing, MD, St. Jude chief executive officer, and our bereaved family panelists. Following dinner, your family will have an opportunity to participate in a special remembrance event followed by a time to relax and visit with other families.
Sibling Activities
9:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. Activities — Location TBD
An onsite professional childcare service, St. Jude child life specialists and St. Jude staff will offer a variety of fun and memory-making activities for children of all ages. 
5:30 - 8:00 p.m. Child Care — Location TBD
Following dinner, child care will be provided for infants, toddlers and children up to age 5. Trained sitters will provide care and activities.

Saturday, October 19

Time Event
7:45 - 8:45 a.m. Late Check-in — Marlo Thomas Center
Breakfast Buffet — Kay Kafe
9:00 - 10:30 a.m. Family Panel Activity, Session I — Marlo Thomas Center Auditorium
Panelists representing St. Jude families will explore various topics of grief and bereavement. 
10:30 - 10:45 a.m. Break
10:45 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. Family Panel Activity, Session II — Marlo Thomas Center Auditorium
1:30 p.m. A Celebration of Remembrance — Marlo Thomas Center Auditorium
A gathering to honor our children, to remember the many ways they touched our lives and to express gratitude for the impact they continue to make.
Sibling Activities
8:30 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. Activities — Location TBD
Professional child care will be provided throughout the morning for children of all ages. Siblings will have an opportunity to participate in a variety of age-appropriate activities. Memory-making activities for siblings, ages 5 to 19, will be provided during the panel discussions. Snacks will be provided for kids 3 years and older will be provided. Be sure to notify us if your child has any special needs or dietary restrictions.

Additional Information

  1. Day of Remembrance Memory Board

    Example of a Memory Board

    Memory Boards will be made on Friday, October 18.

    Instructions

    1. Select an available poster board upon your arrival to the GEC Atrium.
    2. Dimensions of the poster board: About 5 ft. tall x 4 ft. wide.
    3. Display lightweight items on the board such as your child’s artwork, photos, favorite t-shirt, cards, mementos, etc.

    Considerations

    • You may bring cut-out letters or a sign with your child’s name that can be displayed on the board.
    • Push pins will be provided. You can also bring your own push pins or Velcro dots.
    • We cannot provide additional tables or space.
    • Please do not bring anything that requires an electrical outlet.
    • All items to be displayed need to fit on the board or directly in front of it. Please do not bring too many items that must sit on the floor or items that could be easily broken if accidentally knocked over.
    • The memory board provides a chance for you to share favorite memories of your child in a way that is most comfortable to you. You may decorate your board as simply or as elaborately as you choose.
    • You do not have to create a memory board to attend the Welcome Reception. If you prefer not to decorate a board, you may simply choose to put your child’s name on a board so that staff will know where to find you.
  2. Day of Remembrance is filled with activities for siblings. The general schedule of sibling activities is described below. More information will be available at the event.

    Time Event
    Friday
    9:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. Professional child care will be available for children of all ages. Siblings will have an opportunity to participate in a variety of age-appropriate activities. St. Jude child life specialists will provide activities for school-aged children, early adolescents and teens during the afternoon.
    5:30 - 8:00 p.m. Our onsite child care service will be available to provide care and activities to children ages 0-5 years old after dinner.
    Saturday
    8:30 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. Professional child care will be provided throughout the morning for children of all ages. Siblings will have an opportunity to participate in a variety of age-appropriate activities. Memory-making activities for siblings, ages 5 to 19, will be provided during the panel discussions. Snacks will be provided for kids 3 years and older will be provided. Be sure to notify us if your child has any special needs or dietary restrictions.
  3. Hotel Accommodations

    If you live 50 miles or more from Memphis, St. Jude will provide you with a hotel room on Friday, October 18, 2019, for 4 family members at SpringHill Suites. We can make reservations for more nights, but you will have to pay for each extra night at the time of check-in.

    Friday night: no charge
    Each additional night: $118 plus $22.95 tax = $140.95

    Once we receive your registration form, we will send hotel confirmation.

    Hotel Policies

    Check in: 4:00 p.m.
    Check out: Noon

    Check in Requirements

    If paying by credit/debit card:
    You will be expected to present a credit card or debit card for incidental charges when you check in. Credit cards will be authorized by the hotel at check in for $50 and debit cards for $25 per night to cover incidentals. For guests staying more nights than Friday, October 18, credit and debit cards will be authorized for $140.95 per night, plus the incidental charge. The funds will be held until check out, at which time the amount incurred during the stay will be charged. Any unused funds will be returned to the card or your account.

    If paying by cash:
    St. Jude will pay for Friday night at the hotel. Cash paying guests will be required to pay for any additional nights at check in. In addition, a $100 deposit for incidental charges is required. Any remaining funds will be credited and mailed back to the guest.

    Travel

    St. Jude is pleased to provide help with travel costs to families living more than 35 miles outside Memphis.

    If you are driving

    St. Jude will reimburse mileage at $.20 per mile, up to $500 per family, if you live more than 35 miles away. Tell us on your registration form that you will be driving.

    You will be reimbursed for your mileage when you check in at Day of Remembrance on Friday, October 18. St. Jude will pay for self-parking at the hotel for Friday night, October 18. You may keep your car parked at the hotel at no further charge until the Day of Remembrance event ends on Saturday, October 19. You will be charged $10 for each additional night of self-parking after the event ends on Saturday.

    St. Jude will provide shuttle service to and from the hotel on Friday and Saturday.

    If you are flying

    St. Jude will provide up to $500 per family to help with the cost of air travel if you live more than 300 miles away. Tell us on your registration form that you will be flying.

    Within 5 days after St. Jude receives your completed registration, you will receive a confirmation email (or by phone if you do not have email access). When you receive your confirmation, call the St. Jude Travel Office at (901) 595-5000, Option 1, to make your travel arrangements. Please have your credit card information at the time of your call. You will have to pay for any amount greater than $500.

    St. Jude will provide shuttle service to and from the airport. St. Jude will provide shuttle service to and from the hotel and St. Jude on Friday and Saturday.

    Travel guidelines

    St. Jude is providing help with travel costs for you to attend Day of Remembrance. We understand that the maximum amount of $500 per family might not be enough for every family or family member to attend the event.

    Some airline schedules may not offer flights that would allow you to spend only one night in Memphis. St. Jude will pay for one night at SpringHill Suites (Friday, October 18). You will have to pay for any extra nights in the hotel.

    St. Jude will not pay any baggage fees and will not provide reimbursement for baggage expenses. St. Jude will not be responsible for providing housing if you have a cancelled or delayed flight.

  4. Hours of Operation

    The Hospital Gift Shop

    Friday: 8:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.

     
    ALSAC Gift Shop

    Friday: 10:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m.
    Saturday: 10:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m.